Do you know how to cherish your partner? 😍
The word cherish means “to hold dear” and “to cultivate with care and affection”.
I used to think that I always cherished my husband well but upon reflection of the word, I realize in the first few years of marriage I did a lousy job of it.
I didn't do much to:
👉🏾 Nurture him – help him grow, tend to our marriage
👉🏾 Treasure him – safeguard our marriage, prize him as a person and as my husband
👉🏾 Pursue him – keep up with the direction his life was going and engage in his life
Even worse, when I decided to nurture, treasure, or pursue him, it was in reaction to his flawlessness.
Yeah, I made some big mistakes in our relationship, let me tell you! 🤦🏾♀️
And then there's some people who feel they need to do a bunch of things in their romantic relationship in order to receive the cherishment they need. That's definitely what I thought. I tried being the "perfect" wife to earn my husband's cherishment and expected him to do the same to be deserving of mine.
Yup, double mistake right there. 🙈
I realize now that my husband always tries his best to cherish me - irrespective of whether or not I'm perfect!
Y'all, the act of cherishing involves three things: nurturing, treasuring, pursuing. It should be an intentional UNCONDITIONAL choice by both people in the relationship. 💝
If you're like how I was and waiting for your partner to be perfect before you cherish them, stop. ➡️ Make the choice today to cherish your loved one out of the response of your devoted love for them and not out of a reaction to their flawlessness.
💖And if you're also like how I was, thinking you need to be perfect to be cherished, here's the truth: you don't.
What aspect of cherishment will you work on this week? Comment below 👇🏾
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