I personally believe in a #lifepartner. I think having a companion to get through life with is a beautiful thing. Someone who has your back, who will always be there to lift you up high and carry you when you cannot carry yourself, your strength when you are weak. A true #partnership.
#Passion is a great feeling to have but don’t let them tell you not to #marry him if you do not feel some kind of butterfly every time you see him. You may feel butterflies when you see him for the first time after being away for a while and you are just excited and want to look perfect for him or have even planned a surprise. This is also possible in the early days of the relationship because you don’t know each other that well and you are still nervous and careful not to say or do the wrong thing, but eventually with time, that may go away and that doesn’t have to mean you love your partner any less. It simply means you are in a different stage in the relationship. It could be one where you are now comfortable enough to be yourself.
Feeling some kind of boiling over #chemistry may not necessarily be good enough without #compatibility. It may be what brings you together but you cannot weigh the success of the relationship on that. So if you just want a companion to be by your side, then marry your #companion. If you want unmatched #passion, you may be in for a surprise. You need to connect with your partner yes, but after years of being together, that crazy #infatuation you felt early on may very well disappear. In fact, #psychologists say that the high only lasts for about two years, of which after that you start to notice things in your partner you hadn’t noticed before. Suddenly he is not so perfect. That doesn’t have to signal the end of the #relationship but then again, you need to know when the relationship no longer serves you and let go. This comes with #selfknowledge, know what you want and will not stand for and let it be known to your partner so that he can also make the decision to stay or leave and if he stays, he can start loving you according to your love language.
Some of the key things to making it work will be discussed on the next post.