𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝘼𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙗𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙎𝙖𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝙋𝙡𝙖𝙘𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙒𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙚. 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙠 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙖 𝘽𝙚𝙖𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙛𝙪𝙡 𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙠𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚 & 𝙇𝙖𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩𝙚𝙧 & 𝙇𝙤𝙩𝙨 𝙊𝙛 𝘾𝙪𝙙𝙙𝙡𝙚𝙨! 🥰
After 10 years together, it's easy to fall into the routine of just "existing" together. Kids, work, hectic schedules, him traveling...can all be a recipe for us both not feeling the love and appreciation we NEED from each other. It gets put on the top shelf, buried behind the needs of our kids and life. These feelings built up and began causing a lot of tension between us, both feeling unimportant. To be honest, we both kinda stink at communicating our needs well when we are both feeling that way. It just comes across as hurt and angry.
A few weeks ago I started reading a book called "The Gratitude Diaries" by Janice Kaplan. In it, she talked about how she had almost become numb to her life and all the good things in it, and how she had stopped feeling and showing appreciation. She had come to "expect" that her husband would cover the cooking...she got upset with him when he had to leave in the middle of the night for a patient (he has a private practice)...and how she would focus on the things that weren't right instead of the things that were.
She goes on to describe how she started writing down everything she was grateful for, and started verbalizing her gratitude, first with her husband, then kids, etc.
The day after reading this book I started writing on our bathroom mirror 2 to 3 things I was grateful for each morning, or before bed. I just expected it to serve as a reminder for me to look at the positive.
Two days in and Daniel started writing what he was grateful for...so I woke up to his messages. While he was on the road, I would get my normal "Good Morning. Love You!" text messages, but then he started adding in what he was Grateful for.
This simple gesture, done consistently, lead to a break through for not only him and I, but for our family. (Now the kids write on the mirror too!) 𝐓𝐎𝐃𝐀𝐘 𝐈 𝐀𝐦 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐅𝐨𝐫: A Man who knew I needed time with him and who planned out a beautiful day for us.