I apologize in advance for the noise. This is not a video that people will want to hear, but it’s something that people need to see.
If you’re a parent, you understand that tantrums are a regular occurrence. You’ve undoubtedly been in a position where you’re children are screaming, crying, and being downright defiant for no apparent reason.
As a fellow parent, I have empathy for you in those times. They’re undoubtedly challenging, to say the least.
Perhaps the most difficult thing to do during these meltdowns is to respond appropriately. However, It’s also the most important. Such is life.
You see, young children have not yet developed a little thing called “emotional maturity.”
What does that mean?
Well, frankly, children don’t have the ability to regulate their emotions.
And, sadly, neither to most (unhealed) adults (which is most adults.)
Well, when we were children, we, too, threw tantrums. Unfortunately, our (unhealed) parents didn’t respond appropriately. They decided (subconsciously) that the best way to combat a child’s excessive emotional response was to respond with an emotional outburst of their own.
This is fighting fire with fire.
This is how trauma occurs.
This is how trauma is passed down through our lineage.
We have a society of grown children raising children. To no fault of their own, of course.
We are all a byproduct of our traumas until we do the work.
When our children are having outbursts, it’s because they’re stressed, in some form or another. They’re emotional regulatory system is in chaos.
In these times, we must remind ourselves of the fact that emotions are ENERGY in MOTION.
So, to sum it up, their energy is off.
This is the importance of healing.
As a person (and parent) who practices healing, I recognize this, and can combat these tantrums accordingly.
Rather than yell or scream at my child and mirror her emotional imbalance, I pick her up, hug her as tight as I can and whisper reaffirming messages. I hold her heart as close as possible to mine, and I radiate love and peace.
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