These are my people.
The thought struck me deeply as I looked at my husband and son. We were eating take out burritos on a beautiful, cool but sunny day. We had just finished hiking at one of our favorite local spots. It was, in short, a perfect moment.
Lately I have been struggling with the size of our family and how we “look.” Struggling at first, because I wasn’t sure if I wanted a second child. Struggling now, because although we remain open to the possibility, a second child may not be in the cards for us. Age, biology, and fertility all play a part.
There seems to be an unspoken societal rule when it comes to family size. There should be at least two children, preferably one boy and one girl. You can have more than two but not too many.
I worry that if we have only one, will he be lonely. Will we be enough? Enough for me? Enough for our family?
But on that clear, beautiful day, I was reminded. Reminded that society’s notion of “perfect” or “enough” really doesn’t matter.
The size of a family doesn’t matter. What matters is the size of the love.
Our family is small. It may stay small. And that is okay. If I only ever have my husband and son, I have already been blessed beyond measure.
Some families have a lot of people. Some have just a few. Whatever the size, stop comparing yourself to others and spend that energy loving your people.
And remember that these are your people.
📸+🖋by @[8329765:2048:Jamie], one of our contributors. Find more from her on the collective: https://military.momcollective.com/author/jamief
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