How do you deal with toxic exes?
(Pic shared from: https://traumadissociation.wordpress.com/2016/02/26/extreme-victimized-narcissistic-covert-abuse-lies-and-manipulation/amp/)
May be a long one... sorry...
This is a continuous struggle for me... I left my first marriage because I knew I needed to get out... and it was messy. I never talked about my side of the story. I've taken the hate, the gossip, the backstabbing... I accepted being the "bad guy" in the situation, and I was ok owning my choices and mistakes.
But at what point is enough, enough? It will be 5 years this winter, since we've separated and divorced. I am happily remarried and so is he. Yet the petty, back stabbing, trash talking continues. I'm tired. I've been willing to be civil and work together and co-parent as a team. He refuses. He fights me on everything, plays the victim, paints me evil every chance he gets, makes passive aggressive attacks and flat out lies.
Part of me wishes I could share what he does on FB so his family and friends could see him for who he truly is. I'm not that person though. I also need to set a good example for my children. But its hard.
I get tired of defending myself to my children. I get tired of explaining to them what actually happened. I get tired of wondering just how badly they doubt me. I'm tired of them being stuck in the middle and my ex pushing them to take sides. I'm just... tired.